Friday, May 30, 2008


For YW a few weeks ago we did a secret grandma activity that ended with a dinner, it turned out to be a really good activity, I wish I could take credit for it, but my friend D- is the one who organized most of it. I did have one small little part, I was in charge of games. I know that doesn't surprise anyway that knows me, that is my favorite part. Anyway, I came up with 2 quizzes, one for the grandmas to do about pop culture and one for the girls to do about past decades and they weren't allowed to help each other. The history one was pretty easy to come up with, I just used a few sources online but the pop culture one turned out to be a bit more challenging, I even asked some of the moms at the mother's club and they had a hard time thinking of questions too. I've attached a link to them in the right column of this blog so when you get a chance take a stab at it and comment about how well you did.


I started to take this picture of the three of them because I think they all look so much alike and Brady and Sam both decided they needed to copy Tucker to make it just right!

But they did finally do a normal one too.

For our YW acitivity this week, we did a "wedding" night so I had a bunch of my wedding stuff there. One of the things I brought was a binder with the pictures that Grandpa Farley had used for the video of us. I was showing it to some of the youth and one of the YM walked in and said, "Is that your son?" and it was actually a picture of Sam in second grade like Brady is now. I think they really do look a lot a like except that you can see that Brady got stuck with my teeth!

Thursday, May 29, 2008

Getting Settled

I think we all know that sometimes the thought of losing what we have makes us realize what is important to us. We recently had the chance to consider a move with Sam's company and it was exciting as far as job growth and housing prices and what not, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I really do like it here and I don't want to leave. It was hard to leave family and friends to move here but they are still close enough to see every once in a while and now that it has almost been a year here, I finally feel like I'm getting settled. Now the other option is off the table anyway, so I don't even have to think about it, but I'm glad I did for a while because it really made me feel grateful for what I have now.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Memorial Day

Every once in a while I actually feel like I have a good mom day! Memorial Day was one of those days. Because Sam was out of commission I didn't really have any plans or expectations for the day. On his way home from the chiropractor he said he needed to walk so we decided to make it a family walk. We decided to walk to our friends' houses that were a little over a mile away, not knowing if they would be home, but just a good distance to walk. We pulled out the new bike trailer we got for the little kids to be able to join in on the bike rides but with Sam's back we don't know when that will actually happen, luckily it makes a great stroller instead. It was a nice walk and it turned out our friends were home so we visited with them for a while and made some plans for them to come over with pizza in the evening. On the way home we walked by way of a park and let the kids play for a while. At home I set-up Brady up to make Brownies and he did most of it by himself for the first time and then we blasted the music to "Joseph and the amazing technicolor dreamcoat" and were belting it out and then I danced with all the kids. It was just nice to take away all the normal stresses of the day and just enjoy our time with the kids.

Sock Hop

My friend D- called me up and said "do you want a poodle skirt for Eden?" I hadn't even thought about what Eden would wear for the ward sock hop that weekend but I guess she and A- had decided to make poodle skirts for themselves and their daughters and had been making one for someone else that ended up being too small. It was so nice of her to think of Eden and it was still a little bit too big but Eden loved it. I still needed to add the poodle and the leash and I was pretty proud of how the leash turned out, but the first thing Eden did when she got in the car was start to pull it off. The activity turned out to be a lot of fun even though Sam wasn't with us. Eden really got into the dancing with her friends and the boys had fun with the hula hoops.

We took this family picture really fast in the beginning, but they actually took one of us later on so if I get that one, I will add it here, and I don't know if you can tell but even Tucker had his sleeves folded up to match his brothers!

Monday, May 26, 2008

Its back!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My favorite show is back!!! I can't believe how much I really enjoy this show. I actually feel sad when an episode is over and very anxious for the next one. I'm not usually like this, Sam is the one that loves the reality shows. I watch a few with him and there are maybe a couple other shows that I watched regularly but this is the only one that I am so drawn to. I'm sure it helps that there is usually a LDS member that I feel compelled to root for and of course it helped last season that we know Dominic's uncle and Sam knew Dom a little bit, but even now when we don't know anyone yet, I'm still addicted. I have always told Sam that they need to go to Utah for auditions so I'm excited that they finally read my mind. I'm always on the lookout for a fellow member to root for. I guess it is sort of like in sports, having a home team to root for. Even if that person is not the best, I feel connected to them. Orson Scott Card wrote a great article about this and the other LDS members in the other reality shows that I think sums it up really well, but no matter who makes it through, I'm so excited to have my show back on!

Sunday, May 25, 2008

Back pain

Sam's back is out! Maybe not as extreme as this comic, at least not the ambulance part, but the "priceless" part has new meaning for us. (and now that I discovered the comic thing in using it in my last post, I kinda like it and might use it more often when I don't have a picture!) Sam started complaining about his back last week and it just got worse as the week went on. We can't even figure out what started it, possible a bike ride from Saturday morning, but that wasn't strenuous and other than that, it has just been holding Tucker. He did make a few, no so smart, choices since the pain started like playing church basketball Tuesday night and going to the first showing of Indiana Jones at midnight on Wednesday night. That wouldn't have been so bad but that evening he had decided to lay on the floor with his feet up to possible help his back but then he couldn't get up. He tried for about 45 minutes and I was no help so he finally had to ask his friends that were going to the movie with him, to come and pull him up. He should have stayed and rested at that point especially since he had to leave at 5:30am to catch a flight to San Diego but he already bought the tickets and he didn't want to miss out. The breaking point was Friday morning when it took him an hour and a half to get out of bed. He finally knew he needed help. We spent a lot of Friday at the chiropractor and the doctor's office. His Dr. gave him some strong medicine and it does seem to be helping some, but not as much as he hoped. We also went to the hospital on Saturday for some x-rays to see what is going on. It has put a bit of a damper on our weekend plans but we hope he is able to get better and get back to normal soon. Eden just can't understand why she can't climb up and sit with daddy!

Saturday, May 24, 2008

blogging thoughts or nonsense

I saw this Bizarro comic in the Mountain House Press today. Blogging really is the thing lately, isn't it? Maybe its only a trend, but I'm really enjoying it. I have fun posting our pictures and daily happenings, but it's even more fun to connect with everyone else. I never did the myspace thing so this is a first for me, plus it's so fun learning more about everyone. We had an unofficial ward BBQ at the park tonight and a few of us were talking about our blogs. Its funny when people say that they've read mine, I always have to come home and look back over what I've written to see what they might be thinking! I do worry too much about what people think and I'm afraid I've posted something weird at some point. At the same time I get to learn so much more about the people who have blogs. For instance, the people in my ward. I don't think I'm typically a great conversationalist, I don't think I'm really shy but I'm definitely not one of the ones going around talking to people. I wish I was more like that and more comfortable carrying on conversations, but I just feel like I stumble all over the place sometimes. So at these type of gatherings, I assume people have opinions of me and I hear them talking about doing things together and I'm not really apart of that and so I let myself make up stories about why I'm not included instead of just doing something about it. I'm sure everyone does this to some degree, but I think I'm pretty bad at it, but then I go and read a few of their blogs and they all just seem so good and real to me that I'm able to let my insecurities fade. Its also been so fun to keep up with friends and family that I think I would normally know hardly anything about their daily lives. I just think this blog thing is cool and I hope it doesn't become "uncool" soon unless of course it is replaced by something better. Sorry, it is way too late at night and I should not be doing this right now but it was itching at me and I just had to get on here, but I'm not sure if it makes a lot of sense.

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Now that explains it

We have a tooth!!! I knew it was coming, it makes me feel better that this last month of sleeplessness was for a reason. Yesterday was the worst, I ended up carrying him around in the wrap most of the day. This morning the little point of the tooth is out and I can see him feeling it with his little tongue. The more time passes, the more I see that he and Brady are a lot a like. Brady was our other kid to get a tooth so early, at 4 months, and I also think they look the most a like and possibly even have similar type of personalities, at least their baby personalities. If he turns out to be similar to Brady, I can definitely handle that, Brady is a wonderful kid and so easy to raise, not that my other kids aren't wonderful too, just maybe not quite as easy to raise at this point! Anyway, now that the tooth has appeared, hopefully we get a little bit happier, more restful Tucker for a little while!

Tuesday, May 20, 2008


The day we had the garage sale, our friend was helping us carry out some furniture and this bug fell out of the chair as he walked out. Sam and all the boys came to look and everyone was amazed at it. We have seen some unusually big beetles around here but nothing like this. I wasn't near and hadn't seen it so the other day the boys were describing it to me and we decided to look it up online. We narrowed it down to a rhinocerous bug that is native to South America which would be ridiculous to be found here. Suddenly Brady remembered that we had a fake bug that looked like that. After looking the bushes where it was kicked, we found it and looked on the bottom to discover that it was "made in China"! Pretty good joke on us!

Monday, May 19, 2008

Water baby or not!

Friday was Tucker first time swimming and I didn't get very good pictures for memories sake, but at least I got something. at first he didn't like it at all, the water probably was a little cold to him and I just dunked his feet, but later after a nap I was able to take him in for a bit and he seemed to enjoy it for a few minutes. Hopefully, he'll be more into it as the summer goes because I think we will be swimming a lot plus his rollie pollie body is so cute in his swim gear.


Summer hit us hard and fast last week and it's not even really summer yet. At the end of the week we hit 100 degrees so we found ways to endure it. The mother's club had a little ice cream party which my kids loved. Friday we spent the entire day swimming at our friend's house, literally from 10:30 to 4:30 and it was great. Well, Eden actually wouldn't really go in, but she still had fun playing and putting her feet in. Kolby came after kindergarten and then Brady and Jordan came after school and they didn't want to leave. They spent a lot of time messing around with the rings and floats even though they know how to swim. I even got to spend a fair amount of time in the water because Tucker took a good nap in the carseat, it was so nice and refreshing. We are very thankful to our friend for letting us come over and we look forward to many more days of swimming, I just have to find a way to get Eden more interested.

Monday, May 12, 2008

To market, to market...

I almost forgot, on the 3rd, Kolby learned to ride without his training wheels. Sam said he held on for a second and then let go and Kolby was off without a problem. In fact he was so confident that he was able to go on a bike ride with Sam, Brady, and Jordan (on a scooter) all the way to the market which I'm thinking might be about a mile away. They all had a great time, they were so happy to be riding bikes with dad, despite a few spills. Jordan was wearing some baggy pants that he had to keep pulling up so I guess the joke of the trip was when they were at the market. Jordan was a bit slower sometimes because he was on a scooter so Sam said, "you did a good job keeping up" and Jordan said "yeah, but my pants didn't!" Maybe you had to be there but we all got a good laugh out of it. They are all now looking forward to more fun bike rides with dad.

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Now I remember!

These pictures are just for fun, the kids just happened into this pose somehow and called for me to get the camera!

I finally remembered one of the things I forgot! If you're confused now, see my last post! It is the most idiotic thing to forget, I was supposed to take dinner to the person I Visit Teach after she had a baby and I completely forgot. I knew all weekend, I talked about it, had already planned what food and even checked the ingredients but when it came down to it, I completely forgot. I remembered at 10:00 that night so of course there was nothing I could do, but feel bad about it all night. So that is just the kind of thing I have been doing lately. I can't imagine what kind of person this ward thinks I am because I feel like I've been such a crazy person lately. I was at a YW meeting recently and they were asking for volunteers to do phone calls and for those of you who know me, you know I'm not a phone person but for a calling I would usually just deal with it but I actually said "I'm not comfortable with it" when asked. Is that just horrible? I think it is a part of me that is getting bolder as I get older but another part of me that is just not thinking. As I was driving home from that meeting I was reprimanding myself for saying no but I also thought to myself, "I would rather give a talk in Sacrament meeting than call people I don't know" so what happens that night, we get a call to speak in Sacrament meeting in June! It serves me right, but even still I feel the same, I would still rather give the talk. I also seem to be more involved than I mean to be in this ward. I guess that is technically a good thing, but I don't want to be the kind of person that takes over everything, I much prefer to be a follower and just be obnoxious with my opinions. I only realized I was more involved than I thought when someone told me they were making a paper to give new members info. on programs in the ward/area and almost everything came up with 1 of 3 people being in charge, me being one of them. I talked to my friend who is the other one and she sort of likes being in charge but I don't. I just realized that I want certain things to happen and first I will try and get other people to do it, but if I can't, then I will make it happen somehow which is why I am in charge of the yahoo group and sort of in charge of the book group.

As you can see I'm sort of on a thinking binge again, that happens every once in a while. I think it is because I had more of a chance to relax today, it being Mother's Day and all. I did get breakfast in bed, Sam oversaw the boys making it and they gave me their fun little gifts from school. I also got a chocolate bar at church and a chance to go to RS instead of teaching and then a nice dinner this evening. The rest of the weekend was pretty nice also, we spent Saturday morning doing some organizing upstairs. Sam and Jordan worked on the boy's bedroom and Brady, Kolby and I worked on the loft. It took a lot longer than I expected, but it was nice to have it done when a bunch of friends came over to BBQ in the evening and since we also have an empty living room, all the kids could easily spread out and play and I didn't have to worry about the jumble of toys.

Oh, I almost forgot, the best Mother's Day present was that Tucker went to sleep on his own tonight! Maybe I'll finally get some sleep and start being more aware! Until then, here is one more picture, we tried to add Tucker to the pose but he wasn't too thrilled about it.

Friday, May 9, 2008

I am sooooooooooo tired....

Tucker has not been sleeping well for about the last month. I believe he is teething, he is drooling in massive amounts. I know it is starting to make me crazy.

  • I am so tired that I ran into the bathroom door one night when I went to use the restroom, the door was closed and I couldn't open my eyes enough to see it
  • I am so tired that I have gone to the store for three different times with specific items in mind and left each time without them
  • I am so tired that I know I'm having crazy conversations with people, jumping from subject to subject, ok, well maybe that is normal
  • I am so tired that I'm super moody, ok, maybe somewhat normal also, but more extreme than usual
  • I am so tired that I can't remember the other experience I was going to tell you about from being so tired!

I am looking forward to Tucker getting better sleep at night but in the meantime, I have found the real problem: (this was posted on a yahoo group that I am in)

OK, here's my situation. My Mommy has had me for almost 7 months. The first few months were great--I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, day or night. Then something happened. Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep through the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse. I've talked to other babies, and it seems like it's pretty common after Mommies have had us for around 6 months. Here's the thing: these Mommies don't really need to sleep. It's just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep--they just don't need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan. I call it the Crybaby Shuffle.It goes like this:

Night 1--cry every 3 hours until you get fed. I know, it's hard. It's hard to see your Mommy upset over your crying. Just keep reminding yourself, it's for her own good.

Night 2--cry every 2 hours until you get fed.

Night 3--every hour. Most Mommies will start to respond more quickly after about 3 nights.Some Mommies are more alert, and may resist the change longer. These Mommies may stand in your doorway for hours, shhhh-ing. Don't give in. I cannot stress this enough: CONSISTENCY IS KEY!! If you let her STTN (sleep through the night), just once, she will expect it every night. I KNOW IT'S HARD! But she really does not need the sleep, she is just resisting the change. If you have an especially alert Mommy, you can stop crying for about 10 minutes,just long enough for her to go back to bed and start to fall asleep. Then cry again. It WILL eventually work. My Mommy once stayed awake for 10 hours straight, so I know she can do it. Last night, I cried every hour. You just have to decide to stick to it and just go for it. BE CONSISTENT!

I cried for any reason I could come up with. My sleep sack tickled my foot. I felt a wrinkle under the sheet. My mobile made a shadow on the wall. I burped, and it tasted like pears. I hadn't eaten pears since lunch, what's up with that? The cat said "meow". I should know. My Mommy reminds me of this about 20 times a day. LOL. Once I cried just because I liked how it sounded when it echoed on the monitor in the other room. Too hot, too cold, just right--doesn't matter! Keep crying!!It took awhile, but it worked. She fed me at 4am. Tomorrow night, my goal is3:30am. You need to slowly shorten the interval between feedings in order to reset your Mommies' internal clocks.

P.S. Don't let those rubber things fool you, no matter how long you suck on them, no milk will come out. Trust me.

Thursday, May 8, 2008

10 Years!

We are happy to be celebrating our 10th anniversary today. Our first official date was the homecoming dance our junior year in the first picture. They didn't scan really well but I still think you can tell how young we looked, even the difference between then and our Senior Prom in the next picture and an even bigger change to this picture that we used for our wedding announcement.

I have to say it has been a really fun 10 years. I can't believe how fast it has flown by. At my bridal shower a friend asked me where I saw us in 10 years and I said with 5 kids and Sam would be teaching sign language somewhere. As soon as I said it, I followed it with "wait, probably not five kids, that would be too fast!" little did I know! I really couldn't have imagined our life as it is today but I love the life we have together. It makes me look forward to the next 10, 20, 30 and more years to come. I can say that I love the man I married more everyday and we are still best friends like we were from the beginning and I am so glad he is the one for me.

Here are a few pictures I found of our fun times together, we don't have a lot of just the two of us but this is what I came up with, lots of silly goofy moments, Sam always keeps me laughing, this one is an 80's party we went to with friends.

And I will always remember some special dates we had, like our night out at the beach in Hawaii where we talked into the night. I wish I had pictures of every good memory, but there are too many to count.

Happy 10th Anniversary to us: Sam and Melinda May 8, 1998

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Rags to Riches

Saturday there was a community garage sale. Sam and I are always up for a garage sale even though he ended up doing most of the work himself this time. Our goal was to sell the blue living room set. It was still in good shape, I was just tired of it, it had already been in my parents house for several years before we got it about 4 years ago. We had an empty living room at our last house so when my parents were getting rid of it, we took it to temporarily fill the room. Then before we moved here, we planned on selling it and I asked my mom if she minded but we ran out of time and brought it to our living room here. It sold and I was so happy that I called my mom to tell her and that is when she told me they had been out shopping garage sales that morning to look for a couch for my sister!!! I guess we should've communicated better.

The boys had fun helping with the garage sale. Brady worked hard from start to finish, he is such a good kid. Eden had a birthday party to go to, hence the princess dress and the reason I missed most of the sale. We had fun at her friend's princess party. She actually was so excited that she put the dress on right when she woke up even though we were outside freezing as we set up the garage sale and the party didn't start until 10 :00. Then she didn't want to take it off at nap time but she finally agreed as long as she could sleep with the dress in her bed.

Monday, May 5, 2008


We were at the school the other day for a different reason. Both Brady and Kolby won the award for the month for their class, each month has a theme and April was citizenship. A friend commented that we must teach that well in our homes to have two kids get the award but I think we just have some good kids on their own! Jordan, meanwhile, was having fun in the audience with his friends!

Cinco De Mayo

One of the first grade teachers taught all of the first graders a Mexican Hat Dance that they performed today. It was very cute. The story I heard from our friend's daughter that is in Jordan's class is that the teacher had all the boys pick a partner. Jordan heard that his friend E- was going to pick M- but she is shy and he thought E-would be too wild for her, so he picked her instead. I think it's cute, although I haven't confirmed the story with Jordan yet. After the first graders did it twice the second graders that had been in the audience got to get up and learn it so Brady gave it a shot as well as you can see from the picture below.